What 5 years of knowing my husband has taught me.
I had a different blog post scheduled to go out today, but thanks to Facebook’s “Friend anniversary” updates. I realized that today is the day me and my husband became friends on Facebook. It has been 5 whole years of knowing each other, so I was inspired to write “What 5 years of knowing my husband has taught me”.
Love is a choice.
In 5 years of marriage, I have learned that love is a choice. I mean,
being in church as a young adult, I’ve always heard older married Christians talk about love being a choice in marriage. But, never really understood, because I was a young, single, early 20-something -waiting for my prince-charming. Everything was going to be prefect, no rough patches for us. Oh, how I laugh at the old me, now.
I’ve seen love modeled with my parents, they have been married for 30 years, but yet they still choose each other daily. Love is an .Every.Day.CHOICE.
You choose to love your spouse despite whatever chaos may be going on in your life. It is a choice that you must pick everyday.
This goes along with love being a choice. You must be COMMITTED to that choice, BOTH of you must be committed. Through the years of our marriage I’ve seen couples who seemed like the perfect couple, dated for years, gotten married, and then only to get divorced.
Its heartbreaking and I don’t know everyones reason for getting a divorce… But, when only one person is committed to the marriage it will make the marriage difficult to move forward. You must both be committed to making your marriage work. You must be committed to working on communication, and committed to putting each other’s needs first.
Good things take time to grow.
You know those little annoyances that bothered us in early marriage; the toilet seat not being put down, or dirty clothes he leaves on the floor… right next to the laundry hamper. Guess what, years down the road, that may still be an issue. Yup, still.
But, in the grand-scheme of life, those are not things to fight about or turn a marriage upside down over. Think of it as being blessed with the presence of a spouse, because there are many widowed-women who wish they could bring their husband’s back-just one more time…Even if, to just pick up his dirty laundry. These are things we take for granted and things that may take more time to grow than we’d like. Be patient with him.
My husband is my everything, he is an incredibly patient with a kind-heart. He is not a jealous man, which I am so thankful for and he loves our little family, fiercely and
The love that is described in 1Corinthians 13:4-8, is the kind of love I hope you can have and it is the love WE should ALL strive to be like. I remember really reading 1 Corinthians13. Years ago, when I was in that toxic relationship, I was comparing what scripture said about my “boyfriend at the time” and he was none of these things, he didn’t really, truly love me. At least not the way Christ would have wanted us to love each other.
The kind of love I wanted and the kind of love I hoped to be for someone else was the love described in 1 Corinthians 13.
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.-1Corinthians 13:4-8
My husband is my rock, he is the stability I need when I go over the edge, he is the kindness and strength in the face of adversity, he is the even-tempered man I hope to be more like. He is the support I need in every corner of life, He is the husband, and the father of our child that I prayed for.
Even though marriage can be hard and we face many trials in this life, there is no one who I’d like to do life with more than my husband.
We are imperfect people, living in an imperfect world,and although my husband and I are still young in our marriage (almost 5 years) WE strive to make our marriage flourish. My prayer for you is that you would be encouraged to continue to Not just make your marriage work, but make it THRIVE!